If there is one thing that has really opened my eyes in relation to rather a lot of things I care about it’s the realisation how important the first year is in the development of a human being. Not just the first year of course, but during the first year of life rather a lot happens, and much more than in any other year of anyone’s life.
Similarly, the first 3 years are more important than any other 3 years, and set the child off into the world and they will carry this with them for the rest of their lives.
The realisation is scary, because it does put a lot of pressure on parents to get it right. However, it’s not about pressure because it doesn’t actually take a lot to make sure that this first year turns out well. It is, at the end of the day, about love and affection, responsive care (i.e. reacting to the baby when upset), creating secure attachment by being there, interacting, focusing on the child daily at some point. Talk to, play with and read to your child and you’ll be doing just fine. Don’t leave them to cry, be close to them, if they need it, carry them.